If you’ve ever caught yourself feeling frustrated because you’ve just done so much for your senior family member and got no acknowledgement back, you’re not alone at all. Lots of caregivers experience this every day and have to work around those feelings in order to keep doing what they do.
She’s Got Her Own Situation Going On
Depending on what sorts of health issues your elderly family member is experiencing, chances are very good that she’s got quite a lot on her own plate. Because she’s just trying to get through every day herself, it’s difficult for her to realize that you’re waiting for even a little bit of acknowledgement. Think about some ways to offer kudos to your elderly family member for all that she’s doing and you may find that warms your heart.
She May Feel Appreciation, But Be Unable to Express It
Some health conditions leave your senior unable to communicate in the ways that she has in the past. Such is definitely the case with conditions such as . Your senior may very much appreciate what you’re doing for her, but that doesn’t mean that she’s able to tell you that in any way that you might understand as appreciation.
She May not Realize What All You Do
Let’s face it. You handle an awful lot for your aging adult. And it’s not always easy for anyone to realize just what you do, even your elderly family member. Because so much of what you do is behind the scenes, lots of people just don’t understand how much effort goes into being a caregiver. It helps to keep track of your own accomplishments and remember to reward yourself for all that you do.
She Might Resent Help or Be Uncomfortable Needing Help
Another factor to consider is that some people just don’t enjoy needing help. It can make her feel uncomfortable or even resentful to need help from you or from anyone else. The most you can do in that situation is likely to try to be understanding about how she’s feeling and give her some space.
There are a lot of factors to consider when you’re sorting through this type of issue. The main thing for you to focus on as a caregiver is that self-worth comes from within. If you’re taking respite time and allowing home care providers to take over for you, you’re going to be in a better space emotionally. This can help you to appreciate your own actions rather than waiting for your senior to express her appreciation.
IF YOU OR AN AGING LOVED-ONE ARE CONSIDERING HOME CARE IN KNIGHTDALE, NC, PLEASE CONTACT THE CARING STAFF AT SENIORS HELPING SENIORS TODAY. CALL (919) 761-5346.
Kathy is a Certified Dementia Practitioner (CDP) who is active in several other senior related organizations, including Alzheimer’s State Champion program, Friends of the Northern Wake Senior Center board member, Ambassador for the Rolesville Chamber of Commerce, Aging Life Care Association (ALCA), Health Affairs Round Table (HART), and Senior Information Networking Group (SING).